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Social Commentary
Social Commentary
If you love the water but she be too cold. Stay skimming stones til ye be bold.
If anyone reading this has actually gone without money for any extended period of time, it’s a changing experience - one realises (after the initial sacrifice) that theres something great about it. With it comes a realisation of how the corporate world has wrangled every human pleasure or need into a situation where you need to hand over cash for it. For instance the basic human needs such as water, going to the toilet, and a place to sleep (a piece of earth, not a roof over the head) is now a chargable experience; furthermore if we manage to escape these charges the corporate beast has made every social situation into a pay situation… I am talking how advertising has created a social pressure to eat here, sleep there, wear this brand, and drive this car. It’s a liberating experience to feign the pressure to worship this beast. F£ck the beast. Its great to actually just live humbly, eat healthily (no not poshly) and focus on survival and interacting with others by gratuity of a great personality (not the fashion choices), and smile. People we don’t need to spend money, we can just fill eachothers needs. I propose an international week of living non commercially, and a celebration without classes, with no fashion to distinguish the classes, where not a cent is spent, and everyone just gets on… why not?
Everyone has a relationship quota, Its a need inside us, it’s how much we need to relate to others. It’s governed by how much we can give in relationships. We will fill this need any way we can, as soon as we can usually because lonlieness is bad, and communion is good - but is that the best way?Most of the time we interact with people, we fill our quota on those that cross our path, and those we are lucky enough to interact with; this is a passive relational method, what we should be doing is filling our daily/weekly relationship quota with people we select with our minds before our hearts get involved. We want to select friends who have the characteristics we desire, I call this an active relational method. For we don’t just want what we get do we?
Attribute Goals
A way of doing it is write a list of goal attributes in the type of people we want to interact with, and give them points. eg charity worker 50 pts; likes the colour green: 20 points etc, and score ourselves each week on how many relationship points we gain, so that we actually seek the people who will give us more points. As a result of this we will end up with more meaningful relationships.
Depth
That’s great surely but 1 effective relationship is better than 1000 innefective ones?
To add to this method we could score on how far we progress relationships with measurable goals , eg shared a cup of coffee, 5 pts, hugged 10 points, gave me money 20 points, you would multiply the attribute goals by the depth to get your score.
Fast track to trust and depth in relationships
“If we never ask of our friends we will never know them.”
Me: Just then.
Why don’t we fast track relationships by asking for more from our friends - sound weird? While most of us are independent that we don’t need anything at all; needing and being needed is what all relationships are about, so naturally if we can speed up the cycle of needing and being needed, we can speed up the depth of a relationship. It doesn’t matter what we ask for or that we can fulfill our own needs, the important part of asking others is that it’s a building block of trust, and we will have a platorm of tested trust in reserve before we need to rely on it. We can judge where the relationship is at by what requests our friends fulfill for us. It doesn’t matter what we ask for, as long as it’s relevant to our needs and we can assign a score to it. As soon as the need has been fulfilled, we should return the favor ASAP to complete the cycle and build on the trust, then we will have a deeper/stronger relationship because there has been trust, tension, and release/fulfillment between the parties in another cycle. The important part here is keep short accounts or it will backfire. This method needs to be started small. A great place to start is just requesting a conversation with somebody, and rewarding them with entertainment, a joke or a listening ear, start there and build it.
The reason why politics and capitalism is taking over, people are more tied to their jobs than their families, and humanity is being dragged around by the corporate engine is that there is no social structure in place anymore to anchor people. Look at what Baden Powell created in the Boy Scout movement and see that people need more social structure than what is normally assumed in our life.
When you are in someone’s presence and you think you aren’t communicating with that person you are wrong; you are always communicating; you are most likely communicating indifference.
I noticed a blatant mass social indifference years ago whilst on bulk public transport. On the journey I tried to catch someones (anyones) eye, and failed for the whole journey, I suddenly felt alone and very angry realising just how ignorant and indifferent people can be regarding others around them. Fast forward a few years and I am in the same situation, seeing the same thing in myself, and now I realise that as well as being bad, I see that it’s timeless and that it can affect anyone.
What is with it, walking down the street not locking eyes with anyone? Do we think we’re that much better than other people? Or is it that we are too scared to interact? Surely we are smart enough to converse or at least look at a stranger and some good to come of it?
People are ugly like faces of rock, but beneath rock faces are gold mines waiting to be tapped. We need open minds to open mines! Think of all the social networking that could be done in transit; why is the rush hour such a social void? Imagine all the people that we pass by every day without so much as blinking an eye lid, they could be potential counselors, friends, even the love of our lives, but do we chose to communicate? Not actively, we choose the stony faced communication of ignorance and indifference which is hurled upon everyone we see, It screams at everyone we pass by: I DON’T CARE ABOUT YOU to everyone, including perfectly matched acquaintances, business partners, friends, or lovers. The losses are frightening, and it’s very sad.
I think I hate indifference, and ignorance, It’s like a cancer in society, it’s killing us by cutting us off from vital resources that others around us provide us, and becomes increasingly comfortable to live with, so far as to say that it’s an addiction, like a dying smoker choosing to inhale nictotine as their last comfort in their last breath.
The resources it cuts us off from are tremendous, but humans still have needs, so corporate giants pick up on our voids, and through mass marketing they portray their venues, products, or services as organised, socially acceptable temples of interaction - and it works; these contrived, and inorganic places, products and services become our only channels of acceptable socialising. The ironic part is that when we snob free and organic interaction and choose corporate temples we are taxed - heavily taxed, we are taxed by entry fees to sociable places, consuming sociable portions of social products, by viewing sponsored advertising in social places, and more blatantly on the internet, by actually paying extortive amounts to contact others. We lose out on the most valuable resource:time by ignoring others organically in times where they are abundant, and embrace people when they are few, and expensive in contrived temples. If we opened our eyes, smiled, and spoke to strangers we would get to know people faster, and more organically, rather than all the contrived ways under the sun to get us to interact. We would find new business partners, trade ideas and find love, we would find these things, share these things, receive these things, and give these things, why are we not doing it?
Western Citizens as a whole have almost no social aptitude. Western Citizens are the most socially inept on the earth. We need desks to hide behind, names, masks, uniforms, badges, goods, places, services, titles, and brands, and will only act towards other in one particular way in one particular fasion, and we ignore others any other time. It’s not because it’s not socially acceptable It’s because it’s just not comfortable, first, we would have to get noticed, which would imply being different than others, then we may have to deal with the inevitable rejection in front of others, then we would have to be charismatic enough to hold someone’s attention, then we would have to be honest enough to express our needs and not exaggerate our strengths in order to network on our level, then there is always the chance that our stranger is dangerous, a bullshitter or a con-person, and we would have to be strong at detecting, and dealing with it….and it all becomes too much, and hence we shut everyone away. I still don’t think it’s good enough.I have decided I’ll come up with a few pointers to help motivate us to interact with strangers.
In conclusion, don’t just interact with people with the lights are green, and it’s the right setting; become a guerrilla socialite, gain results in any setting, and when the strangers become acquaintances, don’t leave them on your contact list to rot, keep communicating until they are friends, and as for enemys - sometimes peace is just an understanding away, which could be a communication away.